Saturday, March 20, 2021

The Intricate Pattern In The Years

 


“I’m always going back to foolish, embarrassing or shameful things I did long ago and dwelling on them endlessly, even if they’re things no-one but me remembers.”

“Ugh, I know just what you mean. I used to see a therapist who tried to turn that perversity of my memory back against itself, told me to invent false memories in which I did the right thing. I balked at the idea of intentionally falsifying my memories, I pointed out that I was hardly anything but the sum total of my memories, so if my memories were false, what was I? His counterargument was that since nobody but me remembered that moment, what was the harm in changing how I remembered it?”

“So what did you do?”

“Well, soon after I had to stop seeing him for completely unrelated reasons, but I think I would have had to stop seeing him on account of that issue. The idea of intentionally creating false memories, even if they were sitting in a drawer labelled ‘Comforting False Memories’, just kind of creeps me out.”

“I don’t know. I think we all have that drawer. I think we all fantasize about rewriting our past lives to make them come out better, even if it’s only through reading stories about people who have better childhoods or more successful college days than we do.”

“Well, maybe so. But there’s a point right there: when it’s a story about someone else’s life, it’s enough like your life that you can identify with the character, but it’s different enough from your own life that you’re not in danger of starting to believe that what happens to the character is what happened to you.”

“I’ve read stories in which people read overinflated hagiographic books about them and begin to believe that’s what happened to them.”

“Ohhh, that’s creepy.”

“Well, it’s usually played for laughs.”

“Yeah, but the sort of person who gets books like that written about them is usually someone in a position of power. So if, say, a combat veteran rides fame in war to political office, and comes to believe that his inflated heroism is real, his ego could run out of control, and lead to crazy risk-taking in Congress, or the White House. Creepy.”

“Good point. I also recall a story in which a General was constantly narrating everything he did in purple prose to a stenographer who hurriedly wrote it all down.”

“Eek.”


The Magic Eight-Ball says, "Slowly, he tapped away at his keyboard...."

https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poetrymagazine/poems/150045/the-gentle-art-of-shabby-dressing

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